TMI

I think D and I do a decently good job of staying out of the spotlight. We try not to exhibit PDA (both in real life and the Facebook variety). We haven't really had big group hangouts, but that is in part because the twenty miles we're apart is compounded by things like undergrad busyness (D) and familial obligations (me). 


We also rarely see each other. 


One of the things that I miss about living away at college is the freedom to see someone whenever I wanted.  I will likely not be texting, "Hey, are you home right now?" to D anytime soon, unless I wanted to troll him.  I will likely not be "just dropping by" for an unplanned dinner, nor running into D on campus, nor squeezing in an hour of talking on a bench in between classes. Instead, our relationship is structured on scheduled phone calls, texting that works around our class schedules, meticulously planned dates, and the assurance that during the time we're not together, our relationship is, in fact, still chugging along. A girlfriend said to me recently, "That sounds like it would only work for someone as J as you." While this is true, a part of me longs for spontaneity and the realness of being together in ways outside of a convenient time slot.


It hasn't been easy. Post-grad life has been rife with changes for me, many unwanted and emotionally taxing. But D is patient with me, and encourages me every time I am overwhelmed to the point of hysterics. He is never hesitant to be honest with me and likewise demands truth from me.  That was how it also was during the time we co-led small group together. It's been interesting watching our relationship evolve over the last year. 
 

So anyway, the original intent of this post was just to demystify some things for you, that probably didn't need demystifying (but I know you like that sort of thing).